Slow down time.

Do you know how to slow down time? 

Reflecting on 2019 people often say: ‘it went by so fast as if it was nothing’. As a child time seemed endless. The count down to every big event took ages. The anticipation was half the fun.

But nowadays we tend to look past that, thinking about future in the long term, since we have more responsibilities than blowing candles on our birthday cake and opening up presents. Our thoughts can be everywhere. Most of the time, in the past or the future. Contemplating on what happened last week, worrying about our ‘to do’-list or major decisions to make for the future.

And then on such days as birthdays, holidays, get-together’s, they are done before we even had a taste of the cake. With a bit of luck, we took a picture, so we can enjoy that later. That is, if we take the time for that and not something else comes up.

So how do we slow down time? We can learn, from our own childhood experiences and by observing children around us. Ever noticed how much more time it takes to get somewhere when you are accompanied by a child? They are not focused on getting where ever you want to go, especially not in time… They are focused on whatever attracts their attention. A blue car on the street, a bee, or simply their own body. They don’t want to go to school because they feel a tummy ache, or they don’t want to leave the house because they are so excited about a game they are playing.

What we, adults, can learn from children is to become more aware of the present. Of course children are still learning as well, like giving words to how they feel, finding solutions and fulfill responsibilities. But in learning all of that, the trick is not to lose that awareness of the present.
By becoming more aware of the present, you can really experience the present, feel the present, remember the present. Using all of your senses. No need to take that picture to bring back memories. This way you prevent ‘it went by like it was nothing’, because you made it ‘something’ to remember. And not only that, we can also become more aware of how we really feel, the good and the bad. Enabling us to enjoy the good even more, and take care of the bad even better.

Paying attention in a particular way on purpose, in the present, non-judgmentally.
Jon Kabat Zinn

This is a skill you can learn! It is called Mindfulness.

Do you want to learn more? Contact us!

Team Inspired.

New beginnings

A new year is ahead of us: new beginnings, a clean plate, new year’s resolutions, letting go the old, the mistakes, the failures, the regrets.  But before that: we have to close off December…
Many of us will recognize that the ‘To Do’- list became way longer than it was at the beginning of the year. So much to do in so little time… That makes you wonder: how does this happen year after year? Do the good intentions disappear halfway through? Do we lack planning? Are our standards too high?

Looking for answers? There is probably not one good answer to those questions. And like we tell every client: we don’t have all the answers to your questions or problems, we DO have more questions. These questions may show you a DIFFERENT perspective. A perspective that could lead you to YOUR  answers. Finding your own answers helps because it comes together with a greater understanding and motivation to change your situation. 

So as a holiday gift, since we are in the holiday season… we have some questions for you!

What if…. we could start again, each day? Start every day with good intentions. You can also stop every day, with a bad habit for example. What if you can replace a bad habit with a healthy habit instead, every day? What would you do? 
Not to make you less motivated… But do you know how many days it takes to start a new habit? They say between 18 and 254 days… so don’t expect to just decide on the 31st of December to change a habit and accomplish that on the 1st of January. Changing a habit Is hard work! On average at least 66 days for behavior to become automatic. 
Okay that is an answer, but the question is what are you going to do? That depends on you! Your motivation, persistence, confidence, circumstances, all influencing factors. But more important, expectations. 

When we talk to people who are struggling with challenges in life (like we all do every now and then), we often start with looking back at how the week went. “I am sorry but it was a bad week, I failed again!” is a common response. Focusing on failures can make your motivation drop. But it depends on how you look at failures. Was it a failure? Or was it a try out? When you look at the event as a learning experience, it might change your perspective.  Isn’t that how we learn? By trial and error?

We are living in a society where results are important: “get good grades at school! So you can find a good job! Make enough money, so you can provide for your beautiful (future) family! Build a nice house! Drive a fast car!”. And if we have all that, then what? And if you don’t have all that, then what? December 2019, thinking about our good intentions, the outcomes of 2020. Living in the future with our thoughts. What about the process? The try outs? The in between moments? In that sense: what about the here and now? What about LIVING? 

Progress is a dance, a few steps forward and a few steps back. When you are aware of what you are doing, every step is progress. It can be of help to stop every now and then and reflect. Be proud of how far you’ve come. All the wisdom of lessons learned. Allow yourself to take a step back, you are worth it. Accept the dance and you will grow!

And remember: “Sometimes life asks us to change flight patterns in mid-air, this takes flexibility and a fresh perspective”.  

we wish you a lot of new beginnings for 2020!

Team Inspired.